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Separated In Lockdown: How To Maintain Long-Distance Relationships Amid COVID-19 Pandemic

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The social distancing brought by the COVID-19 pandemic has transformed the dynamic of romantic relationships. Especially if you’re quarantining away from your partner, physical contact is a total impossibility. The situation is particularly tough because touch is a way of feeling connected and showing your love to each other. Removing this from the equation, especially in a stressful time like this makes it harder to sustain a relationship.

The global pandemic makes time an uncertain factor as you are away from each other without a certainty of being reunited again any sooner. This lack of reassurance can spark frustration and feeling of loneliness. However, although a long-distance relationship can be challenging, dating apart together with success is more than possible. There are a lot more ways to still feel together, despite having to be physically distant from each other.

If you’re dating long-distance during COVID-19, here are some tips that will help you and your partner share and create intimate moments together afar:

Make The Most Out Of Messaging Apps

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Communication is simply the most vital aspect of any relationship. The time you get to talk to each other during isolation is valuable. For that reason, make sure that you stay in touch regularly. Make the most out of social media and messaging apps where you can engage in chatting, phone calls, and video calls so that you can still be with each other in some way.

Now is the time to manage distant communication intensity. Work around your schedules and make time for each other by talking frequently.

It can also be an opportunity to level up your sexual intimacy by having fun in experimenting with how you can satisfy each other’s sexual urges on-camera or through drafting passionate and intimate messages for each other. It will also allow you to learn how to make things hotter the next time you get together.

Prepare Virtual Dates

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It is easier said than done, but try to find a way to carry on with the usual activities that you can do at this time. The pandemic is all over the news. Try to take a step back and breathe and make sure that this does not consume your life and energy.

With your partner, you can do a lot of things together while you are apart. It can be a time to learn more about each other by playing games together that involves asking questions and telling stories about your life.

You can also watch TV series or movies together while you’re video calling, or you can have virtual dinner dates together. Also, more and more celebrities and musicians are doing live online concerts or uploading their past shows on the Internet, so you can even “go” to a romantic concert date together.

Try to be creative by setting the scene of the background of your video call. You can put a candlelit on the table as if you’re together, or you can dress up like you’re going to a fancy restaurant—the possibilities are endless.

Make Plans For The Future

The pandemic will not last forever, and you and your partner will eventually see each other again, so what are you going to do when that day comes?

Planning an activity together can be a great bonding time and distraction from the anxiety the pandemic is causing. It also gives you something to be excited about and look forward to when this end.

Plan a memorable trip or activity that you will both enjoy. As early as now, you may want to make a list of things that you’ll do and research hotels and restaurants in the place that you want to go to and the activities that you can do there.

Making plans for the future can allow you and your partner to see the positive things when apart.

Give Each Other Reassurance

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As much as you can, talk about your fears and worries to your partner openly and honestly. Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., says, “Couples who share their feelings, both good and bad, are closer than partners who just try to tough it out.” What’s best for you in this challenging time is to acknowledge your true feelings. Communicate and take turns listening to each other about serious conversations about your job, your relationships, or your family.

Giving each other assurances can further deepen your relationship as a couple and improve your mindset as an individual. Assuring your partner that everything will eventually turn out okay and giving advice to each other can help ease both of your worries.

Conclusion

Remember, this is just a temporary set-up. To make this setting work, you both need to exert more effort in understanding each other and making things work to stay connected. This COVID-19 pandemic can teach us that separation is not always bad. Instead, it allows us to strengthen our bonds and relationships even when away from our loved ones.

Marriage And Family Therapists And What They Do

 

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The 2017 Couples Therapy Symposium was an event that was aimed at developing leadership skills and improving therapists’ way of dealing with partners, individuals, and families who needed help with the challenges they were facing in life. Those who just graduated from their family therapy course, and even the seasoned ones were encouraged to join the event, as different speakers spoke about various topics that were definitely beneficial to all family therapists.

In relation to this, we would like to share a few details on marriage and family therapy – who the professionals are in this field and what they do.

Who Are They?

MFTs or marriage and family therapists are members of the mental health team trained in the field of psychotherapy. They are qualified to diagnosed and administer treatments for emotional and mental illnesses that are experienced by couples and family members. These are a group of therapists who have studied and gained at least 13 years of clinical experience in marriage and family therapy. They are committed to helping partners and families address their family issues.

What Do They Do?

LMFTs:

  • diagnose and treat mental illnesses
  • formulate treatment plans
  • practice psychotherapy with couples, individuals, and family members
  • guide and help their clients in improving interpersonal skills
  • do interviews, discussions, and assessments to collect information about their clients.

Other than providing these services to their clients, they also advertise their services, especially if they do private practice. These kinds of therapists spend quite a sufficient amount of time writing progress notes, evaluations, and recommendations.

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How are they different from the other types of therapists? Aside from the fact that their scope is mostly psychotherapy and dealing with mental health issues, they are also the therapists who spend more than half of their time working on family dynamics and how they impact a family’s psychological health. Every day, they tackle various issues of people from all walks of life. They are focused more on improving one’s self-esteem to prevent anxiety, depression, anger, and other negative emotions. They are committed to reaching out to families that are somehow broken and want to be whole again.