Monthly Archives: September 2019

Stop It! Do Not Feel Sorry For Ending An Unhealthy Relationship

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There is a thin line between forgiveness and tolerance. That is especially when your romantic relationship is the one causing an emotional and mental imbalance to your overall development. If you and your significant other are contributing damage to each other instead of growth, it becomes a reason that both of you should consider moving away from each other. With that said, the choice of ending a relationship is a must in this particular circumstance. But what if your partner has no idea of what is entirely going on? What if your loved one is still in the process of trying to understand the necessity of adjustments? Will you be able to excuse yourself for deciding to call it quits?

In all honesty, there is no such thing as an unintentional breakup. Both you and your partner end up separating because both or one of you decides to finish whatever it is that holds the relationship. No one can blame who for leaving, and no one can force the other one to stay. But if you are the one who decides to cut ties and move away, your explanation is more than needed. Perhaps you feel uncomfortable, or you are not happy anymore. Whatever your reasons are, one thing will only state it – personal choice.

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The Validation Of The Final Decision

Let us assume that your romantic relationship is full of shit. There is toxicity everywhere that makes you feel vulnerable to too much anxiety, stress, and depression. With all that pressure, you feel entitled to end whatever it is you have romantically. But then you delay the decision because there is a part of you that tells you should wait and be patient. With that, you are going to do things over again. Is that worth the risk? Well, for some people, they believe that the right to end a relationship depends on its level of unhealthiness. But who can determine what those things are? No one! That is the reason they come up to a deciding point to call the relationship off when it is already too late.

Takeaway

You see, if there is no need to worry about; then do not worry. You are not and never will be guilty of choosing your overall health. You do not hold any explanation as to why you prefer peace and mindfulness over a toxic relationship. You do not have to feel uncomfortable with the decision of choosing your emotional and mental development. Regardless of what is on the line, it does not matter. You have to live with your peace and stay true to yourself.

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No one can tell when a relationship reaches its full toxicity. There may be signs that can determine it, but it can never be a guarantee to become a turning point. However, one thing is sure. Nobody deserves a painful and stressful commitment. It is not right to stay in a disturbing situation only to tell yourself that you are indeed in a relationship.

Depression Pushed My Love Away

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Depression can kill romance and make your sex life boring.  When this happens, it will definitely push your love away, and this is the worst scenario you would not want to happen or else it will leave you more depressed.

Most of us struggle with depression at some point in our lives. In fact, depression is the number one cause of disability worldwide according to the World Health Organization.  It doesn’t only cause us to be ineffective in our workplace, but it also affects our ability to love our self and our spouse.

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Never Ever Do These Things When You Are In A Relationship (Part II)

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In case you still do not understand the importance of keeping a relationship, you might as well consider taking a step back and think about things through. I am not saying that you have to spend an amount of time and effort trying to figure out if your relationship is working or not. All I am trying to say is that you should take a moment to process the problems of your relationship internally. Admit it. You often look outside of the box. You focus too much on the factors that damage your relationship, such as pressure, incompatibility, minor disagreements, and so on. However, you do not intend to evaluate how you react when it comes to engaging with relationship issues.

Never Ever Speak Ill About Your Partner To People You Both Know

I guess it is normal for you to talk to your friends and family about your relationship situation. Understandably, there is some emotional and mental struggle that needs to come out. But what is not okay is when you intentionally or unintentionally speak ill about your significant other. There is no amount of excuse for that. Not only you are damaging your partner’s reputation, but you are also giving people a wrong impression of your way of handling specific relationship situation. Blaming your significant others for the inconsistencies of the relationship and shoving it to people will not solve anything. Instead, it will only create a more extensive gap that both you and your partner might never patch.

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Never Ever Post Any Relationship Issues On Social Media

Yeah right. You are only trying to express emotions and current mood on your wall. There is nothing personal with that. Therefore, you do not genuinely have to worry about what others might say or think about your status. But is that how you entirely see it? Seriously, if you can’t keep your relationship private, then do not be in a relationship. If you do not understand the meaning of privacy, then do not commit to the responsibility of keeping things in a low profile. Yes, you can brag it online and tell people how good your relationship is. But never post your issues on social media because honestly, nobody cares. You are only trying to ruin yourself by allowing people to comment on your rant.

Never Ever Believe What People Tell You About Your SO

If there is one thing you need to do to keep your relationship healthy; that is never, ever to believe what people tell you about your significant other. But, not unless they have proof to support their unfavorable claim towards your partner, allow yourself to have the benefit of the doubt. Ask your partner about it and have a sincere conversation. But if there’s not much evidence to support anything malicious, then never believe what people say. You and your SO are on the same team so you should work together. Remember, one false accusation can lead to emotional and mental destruction.

Stabilizing a relationship takes quite a lot of effort. But it doesn’t mean you can’t work on it.

Never Ever Do These Things When You Are In A Relationship

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There are times that we often feel uncomfortable with our relationship. Perhaps that is due to the tons of issues we currently experience. There are too much drama and toxicity that makes us feel uninterested in patching things up with our significant other. In some unfortunate instances, we somehow think that the only reason why need to stay committed is the years spent with our partner that we don’t want to go to waste. But does it bother you to know that maybe the reason why you do not feel comfortable in the relationship anymore is that you are doing things you are not supposed to?

Never Ever Tell A Stranger A Single Issue Both You And Your Partner Are Dealing With

One particular mistake in a relationship that a lot of people tend to ignore is the idea of looking for an outside zone comfort. No, it is not okay to tell a stranger the things that you and your partner are dealing with. Not only it does create a barrier in your communication, but it also allows a third party to come in and engage. If you still do not get it, it is where an unwanted affair starts. Yes, that is a fact. Cheating sometimes doesn’t happen by choice. Some chances are it can start with a simple “hello” from an unknown person. Then, it becomes an unintentional affair.

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Never Ever Ask A Friend To Say Things To Your Partner On Your Behalf

If you and your significant other are having an issue, there is no way your friends can take sides. But because they often hear only a side of the story, they start to judge. Honestly, that is okay. You cannot blame them for having a split opinion. But the thing you shouldn’t do is to ask them to speak for you. It is your relationship, and it is your partner. Therefore, it is your responsibility to talk and communicate with your significant other. Your friends must stay away on the issue because their involvement is limited to what you and your partner allow.

Never Ever Agree To Let People Decide For Your Relationship

Honestly, it is okay to ask for suggestions and take in some people’s opinion whenever there is one. However, what is not okay is when you allow people to make a life-changing decision that you know you are uncomfortable doing. Not because a lot of people are telling you to do it; it does not mean it will end well. Note that not all comments are useful, and not all suggestions are applicable in your situation. It is your life and your relationship. You are the one that must decide for it because it is you and your partner that will suffer if all goes tumbling down.

Being in a relationship is an ongoing task. It is not all about spending time together and staying happy. There are complications that you and your partner must take into account. Therefore, do not rush into judging and try evaluating yourself too.